Ask any of my friends and they will tell you that I’ve got a pretty nasty habit of being late to stuff. I’m not that friend who will keep you waiting for hours, but it’s not unusual that I’m “running behind” and I’ll “be there soon!” and I’m “sorry for keeping you waiting!”. Even writing these phrases makes me cringe a little bit - I’m so embarrassed.
When you’re late, you’re not only devaluing the person you’re meeting with, but you’re also devaluing yourself. The next time you’re late to something, take a second and you might see that beneath all the anxiety and stress you’re feeling, you also feel disappointed in yourself. For me, this becomes a cycle and I get to beat myself up for days about being late and then I am distracted from whatever is really important in my life. Just one of the many tricks our mind/ego/fear play on us to keep us from loving our lives. Luckily, there’s a pretty simple solution to all of this craziness - being on time.
Here are a few things I’ve learned in the last couple of years in trying to brainwash myself into prioritizing being on time to things. Hopefully they will help you be on time more often.
1. You'll always CHOOSE the thing that is more important to you
For example, if you're working on a business proposal and you need to leave to go meet your mom's friend's brother's cousin for coffee, you're probably not going to be on time. Hint: This might help you figure out what is actually important to you. Cool!
2. It's OKAY to be early!
I think I've always had this complex that only losers/over-achievers showed up early. Growing up, I didn't like that person and I didn't aspire to that. But now I realize that being early to something is kind of awesome. You don't feel stressed or flustered and you might even have time to respond to some emails or whatever once you get where you're going. Other people respect you more when you're on time. You respect you more when you're on time. Going back to the first point, you have to make it important to you to be on time, or else it won't work.
3. If you're going to be late, let the person know!
Even if it's 3 minutes.... let the person know and let them know WHEN you'll get there. If they're there before you, imagine how much anxiety they may be feeling sitting there by themselves. It'll help them feel at ease to know that you are on your way and that you'll be there within a specific timeframe.
4. You should always double the travel estimate that google gives you
Google maps is a liar.
I have been on time to “almost” everything this past week, so props to me. What are some of your tricks for making sure you’re on time to things?